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18 Jan Jessica Walsh and Tim Goodman, who turned a relationship experiment into the hit blog 40 Days of Dating, contemplate movie stardom, writes Hermione Hoby. 20 Jan Few friendships-turned-relationships begin as deliberately as Jessica and Timothy's, though. Frustrated with the New York City dating scene and tired of complaining to one another about their failed relationships, the platonic pair wondered: What would happen if they dated each other for 40 days — and. 40 Days of Dating: An Experiment and over one million other books are available for Amazon Kindle. 40 Days of Dating: An Experiment Paperback – January 20, When New York–based graphic designers and long-time friends Timothy Goodman and Jessica Walsh found themselves.
In Julyafter struggling with opposite relationship problems fear of commitment vs. Their journey turned into a viral blog that has drawn over 10 million unique visitors since its launch—not just because it was an engrossing romantic dramedy couples therapy!
An Experimenthas just been published by Abrams. Design caught up with Walsh and Goodman about design as therapy, risk-taking in both work and love, and their hard-won dating wisdom. How has your approach to love, dating, and relationships changed since the experiment?
Before the experiment, I was trying to chase love, in a way. I was looking hard for the right person, which indirectly put way too much pressure on my relationships.
Through the experiment and therapy, I realized I needed to focus on myself and have fun and not take things so seriously. I had a much more carefree attitude, which helped in my dating life. I met the right person afterwards. We met on OkCupid, my first date a month after the experiment ended.
The project enabled me to be more honest with myself about wanting to find a relationship with someone worth it, someone great. Jessie made me realize that.
Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Sep 03, Fernanda Renton rated it it was amazing. I truly felt that those entries following the initial experiment would have been better organized in chronological order instead of having the left pages reserved for Jessica and the right pages for Timothy. Do you believe that this item violates a copyright? It did not do justice to the designs as it should have.
This project took it to a whole new personal level—mashing design with our personal lives. It created a unique storytelling platform. Now Tim and I are working on another project. I recently heard a great quote by Lena Dunham.
We wanted it to reflect the digital presence we had: In designing the book, our first instincts as designers was to make some big crazy fancy coffee table book with postcard cutouts and perforated pages.
But ultimately, we wanted a lot of people to have access to it. How did your design and illustration work help you process what you were going through emotionally during the experiment? We used design and illustration as a way to process thoughts and feelings.
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There were moments that were very therapeutic—like on day five, when we drew and wrote things about our exes. After doing this experiment, what dating advice would you offer to a single friend?
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The project was a really big risk for both of us, personally and professionally. I was much more reserved before 40 Days of Dating in terms of sharing my feelings and personal life. Even my public image on social media was very curated and work-focused. By Carey Dunne 5 minute Read.
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How did this project change your approach to design work? What was the thinking behind the design aesthetic throughout the book? What career lessons did you learn from the project? Where is your friendship now?
Short read, definitely worth giving it a shot if you're hesitating: We're both on both sides. While the day journal entries benefit from being put side by side, the post-experiment entries were a bit hard to read because Jessica and Tim's entries ended on different pages and the dates were not synchronised. Get to Know Us.